Gatwe, ``As gay men, it's often rare to find a
relationship that is genuinely authentic. Firstly you
need to differentiate between a boyfriend and a rent
boy. If in a relationship you are always taking care of
the other person's financial obligations, the relationship
won't work because there is a point where you will feel
used especially when the person doesn't live up to your
expectations. There is no worse felling than a feeling
of being used. Rent boys and gold diggers have a
devious way of making you think they love you, but
they don't. A strong relationship is one where two
partners only depend on each other for love,
companionship, affection and security _nothing else.
Yes your boyfriend is a call centre agent, sales person
and all those hugely undermined positions but at least
he can take care of himself. The day you stop buying
looks and affection, that's when you'll realize you've
been losing more than you've gained. If someone
doesn't depend on your financial wealth, despite their
position or the rankings- the person that loves you the
most is the one that can take care of themselves.
That's why I Love and admire working class gays, they
are poor enough to hustle for themselves and rich
enough to take care of themselves. When you choose a
life partner, make sure the person is classified
correctly and make sure the relationship exists for the
right reasons.