Aren’t these people the same as other
sexual deviants? How are gays and
lesbians different from pedophiles,
exhibitionists, incestuous couples, rapists,
those who have sex with animals? These
people offend others, and gays too.
I think the bigger question here is, are these
people causing anybody, any kind of harm?
Homosexuals are just 2 consenting beings
having an act of pleasure between
themselves, outside of the knowledge of the
rest of the world. Lets analyze the other
groups –
Pedophiles – An adult sexually attracted to
children. I don’t think having an attraction
towards anything or anybody can be wrong.
But if a pedophile tries to have sex with
children, by the use of coercion/intimidation, it
amounts to harm according to me. This is sex
without consent. But this is totally different
from homosexuals’ consensual acts.
What is the actual age of consent? Can kids
consent? How agreement differs from
consent? Does a maturity switch just turn on
when a kid reaches the age of consent? Do all
kids mature at the same rate? These are
serious questions and cannot be dealt with in
depth here(maybe another article someday).
Exhibitionists – Someone with a compulsive
desire to expose the genitals. These people
don’t cause any physical harm to anybody.
They do something that put people off. Some
feel that homosexuals are similar since there
acts also put people off.
Here too, there is a difference. The general
idea of an exhibitionist is a person who
exposes in public without regarding the
sentiments of others present. Such
Exhibitionists understand that what they do
offends people and are still doing it. They
don’t care that they are offending others. A
healthy society cannot function that way. If
they want to do it, and there are others like
them, they can have a seperate place
designated for them. Nude beaches all over
the world are all examples of nudists and
exhibitionists getting to do what they want,
without offending others.
Homosexuals are different. Maybe some of
them don’t care for the sentiments of others.
I’ll assume their ratio is just the same as their
counterparts in the rest of the society. Not
caring about others has nothing to do with
sexual preferences. Most homosexuals just
want to do their acts privately, with those of
similar inclinations. I suppose if no one asks
them too many questions, they won’t be too
bothered to answer and no one needs to feel
offended. It is only when we poke our nose
too hard into the lives of othes and ask for
explanations, that these things come out in
the public.
Incestuous couples – People having sex with
thier close relations. All I have to say is, it’s
their choice. If they are consenting, I don’t
care. It matters to me in no way.
Rapists – If you compare them to
homosexuals, it just shows that you are
paranoid. Rapists force others into sex
AGAINST THEIR WILL! They cause physical
harm! Enough said.
People who have sex with animals – Animals
can’t give consent verbally. But they still have
sex. I think this a personal call. If I find a
person forcefully having sex with an animal, if
I feel that the animal has not given it’s
consent, I will try to save it. If the act seems
consentual, I will just pass by.
They set bad examples for our kids.
How? Just tell your kids they are 2 people
who love each other. There is nothing bad
in that. That is all that you and your kid
need to know. It is no business of yours
to imagine about and pass judgement on
what goes in their bedroom. They form an
example only when we collectively give
our attention to their sexual preferences.
Just treat them as normal people.
Higher rate of a lot of diseases among
homosexuals… especially AIDS and
various other STDs. This is also an oft
quoted reason. This is backed by
statistical data. I will not contest that,
although I don’t believe that all statistical
data is always true. For the sake of this
discussion, I will assume it is all correct.
Don’t you think these are more concerns of
exercising proper health practices, hygiene
and discretion? It seems the homosexual
community is showing less regard towards
these issues. This may, as some say, be
caused by the difficulty they have in finding
sexual partners because of the social stigma
involved. Probably they tend to disregard
health concerns when they find that one rare
and willing partner. But then lets be clear
here, the problem is lack of concern for health
and hygiene. The problem here is also social
stigma which is causing this dire state for
gays and lesbians. The problem is NOT
homosexuality itself.
Is this God’s will? God never seems to come
forward and say so.
Aren’t diseases spreading through them in the
rest of society? As I said above, what is
responsible is here, is lack of good health
practices and lack of discretion, NOT
homosexuality. To hold homosexuality
responsible here is the same as holding
electricity responsible when people get
electrocuted. People just need to be more
careful with their use of electricity.
If they adopt kids, it will be difficult for
the kid. I know there are kids who grow
up with a single parent. I know kids who
grow with parents who continually fight
among themselves or who abuse their
kids. The point is, while having 2 parents
of different genders may be a good-to-
have, it is not a necessity for good
parenting. It is only something that we
are used to seeing.
While a mother’s or a father’s love is a unique
and beautiful experience, I think love cannot
be described as adequate or inadequate. If 2
people of the same sex really loves a child
and care for him/her, I don’t see how I can
call their love inadequate. There might still be
issues of bad parenting, just as their are with
regular parents and they should be taken just
as any other case of bad parenting. Maybe
statistics will show that homosexuals are
comparitively bad parents, but then I won’t
want statistics to deny genuine people from
the beautiful experience of having a child.
Love and care for a child is what I would
emphasise upon, not the gender of it’s
parents.